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Steph
Steph
2 years ago

I was having sex way before the first time I masturbated, which probably didn’t help my sex life very much. I lost my virginity at 17, and I didn’t actually masturbate until I was 22. I also didn’t have an orgasm until I was 23, so I definitely think the two were related. I couldn’t get off until I knew exactly what I wanted and needed. Maybe these men were just terrible in bed, but masturbation definitely enables you to learn more about yourself sexually.

Ava
Ava
2 years ago

My boyfriend at the time (who was my first serious relationship), kept trying to convince me to watch porn because I told him I never had. I had no interest in watching it alone. He said he’d watch it with me so that I didn’t feel weird, which if I’m being honest made me feel even weirder. So my first time watching porn was with my first serious boyfriend sitting next to me. We started watching, and he was visibly aroused, while I was inside my own head thinking painfully stupid thoughts, “Her moaning sounds awful. How did she get her clothes off so quickly?” He could see I wasn’t enjoying any part of this, so he told me to touch myself. I looked at him and was surprisingly turned on by his demand. I reached my hand into my pants, under my panties and began just as he told me to. I had never masturbated before, so I had no idea how good it would feel, he loved watching me do it too. It was pleasure for both of us.

Alison
Alison
2 years ago

I was a freshman in college. I went to a relatively small school, so everyone befriended the people who lived in their dorm building. All of the girls on my floor were single, and were having sex with whoever they wanted, whenever they wanted, as they should’ve. I, on the other hand, was tied down to my boyfriend from high school at the time, which meant I was horny, lonely, and miserable. He would call me every night making sure I wasn’t in the room of some hunky senior preying on female freshman, so I didn’t go out a lot, and if I did I always came home early. Luckily my roommate was always out late, so I had the room to myself a lot. One night my boyfriend (at the time) was texting how much he missed me, how much he missed my body, touching me, kissing me, fucking me, you get the idea. It had been 3 months since I had sex, which was a long time considering my boyfriend and I would have sex almost everyday. He called me that night and started telling me everything he’d do to me if he was in that dorm room, and that was the first time I masturbated.

Carlie
Carlie
2 years ago

I’ve been masturbating since I was 15. I started realizing boys existed when I was about 13, which lead to purely innocent movie theatre kisses, and sending AIM messages like Derek says he likes you, do you like him? But when 15 rolled around, suddenly those innocent acts weren’t satisfying anymore. I have pretty progressive parents, so my mom would talk to me a lot about STDs and pregnancy, and it definitely freaked me out. I thought having sex meant contracting Gonorrhea, or getting pregnant (good work, Mom). Since I was paranoid about others touching my body, I decided to explore it for myself. At first I thought it was weird, but when I did it the right way, it felt amazing. As embarrassing as this sounds, I felt so much more sophisticated after I did it, like I had matured in some weird way. I knew things about my body that no one else knew, and that felt great.

Leah
Leah
2 years ago

I didn’t tell my girl friends because none of them had talked about doing it, and I thought it was super embarrassing, but one night I was really in the mood, and I was alone. When I first touched my clit it was like an on and off switch that I never knew was there. It was a pretty great discovery, and I’m so glad I went exploring, even if I kept it a secret. It’s funny because now, I openly tell everyone when I masturbate. My roommate will ask me if I want to get dinner, and I reply “No, I’m going to masturbate,” and that’s completely normal conversation in our apartment.

Denise
Denise
2 years ago

I never had serious relationships. In high school I dated a guy who completely screwed with my emotions from freshman to senior year, so when I got to college I wanted to be completely unattached. I was having tons of casual sex, and was enjoying myself while doing it. There weren’t many times when I was laying alone and horny because I had a wide array of fuck buddies to choose from. My friends would always ask me why I didn’t masturbate and I told them I had enough sex, I didn’t need to. That was until winter break rolled around, and I was back at my parents house with a midnight curfew and absolutely no fuck buddies within a 50 mile radius. I was texting my best friend about how being home was like being stranded in a desert, a very dry desert, and she replied, “Just do it!” I didn’t even have to ask what she was referring to. When I showered the next morning I began touching myself. It was just as satisfying as any of those fuck buddies, and when I returned to school for the next semester, I was much more self reliant.

Rea
Rea
2 years ago

It was a pretty normal experience. I was alone and horny, and my curiosity was heightened. Thank god I was, though. I began to be more adventurous when it came to sex. If I could experience enormous pleasure from trying something so simple, what else was I missing out on? It was my sexual awakening. Opened up a world of possibilities. Sex is so much more interesting now.

Valerie
Valerie
2 years ago

Can’t believe I’m actually admitting this, but I was watching Cruel Intentions. There is so much sexual tension in that movie! I was 16 and no one was home. I blame it on my teenage hormones. Either way, Ryan Phillippe is not a bad first masturbation experience. I hope he reads this, that’d be fantastic.

Guest
Guest
2 years ago

I was a late bloomer when it came to sex. A prude is how most of my friends would’ve described me, even though I hate that word. I was still a virgin at 23, and my roommate thought that was unheard of. One day she was venting to me about how her boyfriend didn’t like going down on her, and anything I contributed to the conversation had little value, because I was sexually clueless, so in her frustration she reached into her dresser drawer, and pulled out her vibrator. It was the ugliest thing I’ve ever seen. This sparkly neon pink thing that looked like flubber but in the shape of a deformed penis.

Beatrice
Beatrice
2 years ago

“You should really think about borrowing it sometime.” I’ll never forget her saying that. I just remember feeling really embarrassed, insulted, and grossed out. When she went to her boyfriend’s that night, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I went into her dresser drawer and that ugly pink thing was staring back at me. At first I didn’t even want to touch it, but then I just thought, fuck it. I didn’t even bother washing it first, which now that I think about is so unsanitary, but I was so fed up with everyone calling me a prude. When it vibrated against my hand it felt like a tiny tickle, and when I put it down there, it felt like so much more. It was a pretty great revelation.

Alissa
Alissa
2 years ago

Ok, I officially feel like a total freak of nature and like I need to talk to a therapist or something. I was getting myself off since I discovered the feeling by accident when I was probably 5 or 6. I did it fairly often ever since and I’m now 27. That seems SUPER YOUNG compared to these stories. Am I alone here!?!

Twilisha
Twilisha
Reply to  Alissa
2 years ago

Right what I remeber most, would be like…watching movies with the fam, and a sex scene would play, and it ALWAYS made me twitch down there, so I would squeeze my legs together…I think that was the start of it. And I was very young. 4 or 5 maybe.

Anne
Anne
Reply to  Alissa
2 years ago

Same! I first distinctly remember masturbating at about 4 years old, but probably did it before that. Come to think of it, I got a rocking horse for my 3rd or 4th birthday… It seems like most other people didn’t start until teens or even 20s! Who knew!

Okhmm
Okhmm
Reply to  Alissa
2 years ago

You are not alone! That’s how old I was too!

PA Doubligné
PA Doubligné
2 years ago

I can’t imagine going through puberty and not masturbating, how do you ladies do it?

DaisySpins
DaisySpins
2 years ago

Everyone is so old. I was masturbating to orgasm at maybe 11 years old… And touching myself even before that. I had no idea what I was doing and had no idea there was a name for it.

Twilisha
Twilisha
Reply to  DaisySpins
2 years ago

Same. I’m like “the first time? Can’t remember it” Just seemed like something I was always into lol

rawpower
rawpower
Reply to  DaisySpins
2 years ago

I started way earlier than that because I was molested, so… But then I stopped at probably 12. Not really sure why, or maybe I just forgot. Funny thing is, I watch porn and everything, I just don’t ever masturbate, isn’t that just CRAZY to say?
Lol, the mind of a female is a complex one.

Sophie
Sophie
2 years ago

I masturbate at least six times on weekdays, eight or more on weekends. I usually plan my day around it. Twice in the morning (first thing when I wake up and then in the shower), twice at work when I go for “toilet breaks”, and at least twice in the evenings. I have a wardrobe with costumes I like to wear depending on the fetish porn I’m watching. It’s the reason I live alone because I need the privacy.

Julia
Julia
Reply to  Sophie
2 years ago

I only do it when in alone in my flat so it’s normally on a midweek day off, in the afternoon is my fave time. I close the curtains, lock my cat in another room (otherwise he hears the vibrations and triess to attack, not cool). Normally I just watch porn on my phone and use a vibrator of some variety.

Helen
Helen
Reply to  Sophie
2 years ago

I don’t have a real masturbation routine. Usually in bed or sometimes if a day off in the shower, depending on how i was feeling. Just ’til it feels like a natural end.

Amelia
Amelia
2 years ago

I try not to do the same thing every time because I read this terrifying article about how doing the same thing every time can make you unable to come any other way.

Chloe
Chloe
2 years ago

I do it because the stimulation from my bullet isn’t something you can get from toy-less sex and it feels amazing, but don’t do it often because I prefer sex in general and my boyfriend and I live together so I don’t feel like I need to all that often. Setup would be checking there’s no danger of being interrupted, lying on or in my bed and usually have low lighting but close my eyes anyway. Tend to mostly or fully undress before starting but depends how long I’m dedicating to it and whether I’ve just showered or I’m fitting it in during the day.

Camilia
Camilia
2 years ago

I do it probably once a fortnight? Maybe more? So not often, but I find that I usually do it more when I’m due on my period. ‘Sometimes I feel like I need to watch porn to get myself going, as it were, sometimes I don’t need to, it depends. ‘I can usually have multiple orgasms and be done within 30 to 45 mins. ‘I don’t use ‘tools’ much anymore. I haven’t got a vibrator and (I’m back living at home) and I found the bullet too noisy and it was making me paranoid so I just use my fingers instead.

Francesca
Francesca
2 years ago

Sometimes I use the old fashioned method of using my imagination, but recently I’ve actually got into watching porn. I have a vibrator which I hardly use anymore. I prefer the natural method.

Molly
Molly
2 years ago

Depending on how the day unfolds, it will either be before or after work. However, there have been a few occasions which the stress of the day has taken its toll, leaving me with no other option but to have a little time of pleasure to myself – not ideal in a public cubical. Let’s discuss the set up at home – a little more pleasant! Firstly I set the scene with candles and sweet soul music playing softly. Then, I bring out my partner in crime – the dildo. The rest is history.

Emily
Emily
2 years ago

I don’t masturbate often, so when I do it’s an event. I’m talking a long bath, fresh sheets, silky underwear. I struggle to find decent porn that isn’t just jackhammering and giant penises, so usually watch lesbian stuff or anything with domination. I start off with my hands and then use a vibrator on my clit. My room has to be tidy because otherwise I get distracted, and I play music out loud and use headphones for the porn. I’ll only do it when no one’s home because otherwise I get so worried about keeping quiet that I can’t come.

Lucy
Lucy
2 years ago

It all depends on how busy I am that week or how often I see my boyfriend. If I have a day off with nothing to do I can crack out a few in a day, but sometimes it’ll only be once or twice a week. If there’s no one in my flat, I’ll use a toy (they’re noisy buggers) and watch porn or read something online, and make my room look nice so i’m not distracted – make a real thing of it. If my housemates are in or it’s just a quickie, it can be as simple as laying down and getting the job done.

Adeena
Adeena
2 years ago

One afternoon on my way home from school when I was 16, I was stuck behind a massive highway accident long enough to try masturbating (for the first time) with a vibrating caterpillar my brother got in a Happy Meal. I came literally right as the road cleared up. I continued to use the caterpillar whenever I was stuck in traffic before investing in a real vibrator (which, to be honest, didn’t do the job any better). I’m lovin’ it, am I right?!

Maya
Maya
2 years ago

I had my first orgasm when I was 7 in my jacuzzi in Hawaii and I thought I was dying.

Nico
Nico
2 years ago

I was 11, and I was lying in my bed, experiencing a feeling that I would later learn to describe as ‘super horny,’ when I thought, ‘what if I made my hand like a vagina?’ I did, and it worked. Not only was I proud that I had figured the whole ‘masturbating’ thing out for myself — I was convinced that I had actually discovered it. You’re welcome, guys of the world! For some time, nothing came out when I did it, but once I started producing semen, my bed became a really foul place.

Georgia
Georgia
2 years ago

I had my first orgasm with the help of an electric toothbrush while lying inappropriately close to my mom in a hotel bed. The toothbrush was a great call—if I’m keeping it real, I still use one in a pinch.

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